Meghan Markle: An expert on the ‘cracks’ in her relationship with Kate
The Duke and Duchess of Sussex left the royal family last year and moved to the United States with their son Archie, and have since had baby Lily. Their decision to step down from their royal roles and the fact that they’ve spoken constantly to the media over the past few months about their experiences at The Firm, and publicizing the family’s dirty laundry, have added to the tensions. The clearest example of this is their interview with Oprah Winfrey in March, in which they made a number of allegations, the most shocking being about race and mental health.
Their allegations prompted Buckingham Palace to respond that “memories may differ”.
However, it was something that happened after the interview that, according to relationship expert Sammy Wonder, broke trust between Harry, his brother Prince William and his sister-in-law Kate, the Duchess of Cambridge.
Gayle King, a friend of Harry and Meghan, told CBS that the duke had spoken with his brother since the interview, but that the conversation had been “unproductive”.
Leaking this to the media may make William more reluctant to speak to his brother, fearing that whatever he might say will end up in the press.
Ms Wunder told Express.co.uk that the two brothers must work together to restore that trust and ensure that their future conversations remain confidential.
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Meghan and Harry stepped down from their royal roles last year (Image: GETTY)
Meghan and Harry spoke to Oprah Winfrey about their experience with the royal family (Image: Harpo Productions/.)
She said: “I think it is very important that everything that is going on in the reconciliation talks is not leaked to the press because I think it is important to rebuild trust.
« Je pense que lorsque Gayle King a commencé à parler, après l’interview d’Oprah, qu’il n’y avait rien de productif dans la conversation qu’ils ont eue, je pense que c’était un gros, gros abus trust.
“And I’m sure it wasn’t planned and I’m sure Harry and Meghan didn’t plan to take it that way, but these things happen, these slips happen when you’re an important and influential person and some people trust.
“So I think it’s important to restore trust on both sides and for both sides to agree that this is a private family matter and not for public consumption.
“It’s not entertainment, it’s not world class and Vogue material, it’s family and it deserves dignity and respect in how we treat it in the future.”
Gayle King said the conversation between the two brothers was “unproductive” (Image: CBS)
The suggestion that future discussions remain confidential was supported by another relationship expert, Neil Wilkie.
He agreed that the family drama being shown in the media did not help bridge the gap.
He insisted that the meeting should be “secret” and with only Harry and William there.
He even argued that inviting a third party like Kate to be the mediator, while it might help, could also make things worse.
He told Express.co.uk: “First of all they have to do this in a public safe way.
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Cambridge and Sussex are somewhat at odds these days (Image: GETTY)
“Doing this while the TV cameras are on is not at all a good time to do this.
“You have to be in secret and you have to be together, and there is no one else there.”
“It only takes a little relational ripple to make meaningful change,” he added.
But if Harry picks up William’s phone or William picks up Harry’s phone and says ‘Listen, I’m so sorry about where we ended up, I love you and hope we have a good relationship in the future, can we talk about that? “
“I think that’s what has to happen, and having other people as mediators can help, but it can also make things worse.”
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Ms. Wunder and Mr. Wilkie also agree that to overcome this, both sides will have to agree to leave the past behind.
Everyone has their complaints, but playing the blame game will do nothing to bridge the gap.
Ms Wunder said: ‘Also they should leave the past behind, I think there are complaints on both sides, there is resentment on both sides, there are memories, they say – memories can vary so I think both sides have their own stories, but it is important to keep the past. In the past, tolerance and doing better now.
Mr Wilkie added: “Both have to focus on what they really want in the future and where there are arguments ran through the family – sometimes for generations – the original cause of the debate often gets lost, but it just becomes a place where people can’t go from.
“So focusing on the future and the relationship the two want in the future can help them leave the past behind.
“And you know, you can get caught up in the blame game too. Whose fault is it? Harry should have been at Oprah etc.?”
“Again, this takes you back in time and you have to accept that you can’t change what happened, but you can change the way you allow it to affect your future.”
Sammy Wonder is an expert in dating and relationships with high-performing women and helps them find and keep romantic love. It can be found here.
Mr. Wilkie is the author of The Relationship Paradigm series of books and author of the online couples therapy platform, Relationship Paradigm.
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